Everyone has some challenges they have to struggle with. The family asks that in lieu of flowers, contributions be made to either the missionary fund of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, BYU or the American Cancer Society. Biden wants review of Bears Ears, Grand Staircase boundaries, Utah school districts could lose $ if they don’t offer ‘broad-based in-person learning’, Utah Senate approves $43 million in tax cuts for retired military, Social Security, 7-year-old girl critically injured after being hit by truck in Layton, Check out rare mirabilite mounds at the Great Salt Lake on Saturday or Sunday, A Wyoming GOP chairman mentioned seceding from the union. But what matters is the fact that we know we can control how we behave, and it is behavior which is important. She’s a beautiful girl. Further, men are that they might have joy. ELDER WICKMAN: One way to read the Book of Mormon is as a book of encounters between fathers and sons. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: Is heterosexual marriage ever an option for those with homosexual feelings? Dallin H. Oaks real name is Dallin Harris Oaks. Dallin H. Oaks was born in Provo, Utah on August 12, 1932. Those choicest blessings are associated with marriage between a man and a woman by appropriate priesthood authority to bring together a family unit for creation and happiness in this life and in the life to come. What does that really mean? ELDER OAKS: The First Presidency made a wonderful statement on this subject in a letter in 1991. But from the standpoint of a parent counseling a person, or a Church leader counseling a person, or a person looking at his or her same-gender attraction from the standpoint of ‘What can I do about it here that’s in keeping with gospel teachings?’ the clinical side of it is not what matters most. Even as a young boy, leadership came naturally to him. The law declares unacceptable some things that are simply not enforceable, and there’s no prosecutor who tries to enforce them. That’s not appropriate.”. With the exception of Ronald Reagan, Garth Brooks has played for every U.S. president since Jimmy Carter. A redefinition of that institution, therefore, redefines it for everyone — not just those who are seeking to have a so-called same gender marriage. If we yield to the temptation, we have committed sinful behavior. 2) If I can keep myself worthy here, if I can be true to gospel commandments, if I can keep covenants that I have made, the blessings of exaltation and eternal life that Heavenly Father holds out to all of His children apply to me. But if you choose to go that way, we will always try to help you and get you back on the path of growth. Friends may call from 7 to 9 p.m. Friday at Larkin Mortuary, 260 E. South Temple, and from 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. at the stake center. ELDER OAKS: Amen to that. During his 2020 Mission Leadership Seminar address on June 27, President Oaks spoke on the how the sacrifices made by missionaries serving during the COVID-19 pandemic underscore the spirit of missionary work. We were quite poor when I was in college; we had two children by the time I finished BYU, and three children by the time I graduated from law school. Why fight to get a Constitutional amendment [in the United States], for example? Jesus said that “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and they twain shall be one flesh. ELDER WICKMAN: For openers, marriage is neither a matter of politics, nor is it a matter of social policy. Perhaps there is an inclination or susceptibility to such feelings that is a reality for some and not a reality for others. Does it really mean that someone with same-gender attraction so long as they’re faithful, has every opportunity to participate, to be called to service, to do all those kinds of things that anyone else can? It’s contrary to the whole teaching of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, which expresses the truth that by or through the power and mercy of Jesus Christ we will have the strength to do all things. Let’s not forget that for thousands of years the institution of marriage has been between a man and a woman. Such advocates are quick to demand freedom of speech and thought for themselves, but equally quick to criticize those with a different view and, if possible, to silence them by applying labels like “homophobic.” In at least one country where homosexual activists have won major concessions, we have even seen a church pastor threatened with prison for preaching from the pulpit that homosexual behavior is sinful. Suddenly we are faced with the claim that thousands of years of human experience should be set aside because we should not discriminate in relation to the institution of marriage. There are people who oppose a federal Constitutional amendment because they think that the law of family should be made by the states. Some argue that Jesus Christ’s compassion and love for humanity embraces this kind of relationship. ELDER OAKS: This is much bigger than just a question of whether or not society should be more tolerant of the homosexual lifestyle. The line of sin is between the feelings and the behavior. Why not just say, ‘We don’t agree with it doctrinally for our own people’ and leave it at that. Health care workers, first responders and other high-priority recipients in the state had the opportunity to be vaccinated in recent weeks. Some of those encounters were very positive and reinforcing on the part of the father of a son. From the Church’s standpoint, from our standpoint of concern for people, that’s not where we place our principal focus. To support his widowed mother, President Oaks started his first job sweeping out a radio repair shop at age 11. We realize there may be great loneliness in their lives, but there must also be recognition of what is right before the Lord.”. Does it mean missionary service? It’s not the Church that has made the issue of marriage a matter of federal law. You are now leaving a website maintained by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Does it mean that someone can go to the temple, at least for those sacraments that don’t involve marriage? Dallin Harris Oaks was born in Provo on August 12, 1932. Whether a person who has lost a spouse enters into a second marriage is a very personal decision. Do you see any irony in the fact that the Church is so publicly outspoken on this issue, when in the minds of so many people in the United States and around the world the Church is known for once supporting a very untraditional marriage arrangement — that is, polygamy? Courtney will never marry in this life, yet she looks wistfully upon those who do. ELDER OAKS: Another point to be made about this is made in a question. Some were occasions where a father had to tell his son or his sons that the path that they were following was incorrect before the Lord. He is Lawyers (American Lawyer) by profession. ELDER OAKS: That’s a decision that needs to be made individually by the person responsible, calling upon the Lord for inspiration. He just feels he can’t live what he thinks is a lie any longer, and so he comes in this very upset and depressed manner. Persons who have this kind of challenge that they cannot control could not enter marriage in good faith. In fact, the Savior did make a declaration about marriage, albeit in a somewhat different context. Dallin H. Oaks is a General Authority of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and was set apart as the first counselor in the First Presidency on January 14, 2018. It also ignores the definition that the Lord Himself has given. Dallin Oaks’s industry and scholarship won him the opportunity, after graduation, to serve as law clerk for … We refer to that as the teaching function of the law. Dallin H. Oaks earned a bachelor’s degree in accounting from Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah. The Church rarely takes a position on which treatment techniques are appropriate, for medical doctors or for psychiatrists or psychologists and so on. President Dallin H. Oaks expressed his gratitude for getting the vaccine. byPresident Dallin H. Oaks, "Life's Lessons Learned" | Apr. But even that, in the fullness of life as we understand it through the doctrines of the restored gospel, eventually can become possible. She has served as a ward Young Women president, Relief Society president and a Primary president. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: On some gay web sites there are those who argue that homosexual behavior is not specifically prohibited in the Bible, particularly in the New Testament. It’s already there. ELDER OAKS: We surely encourage parents not to blame themselves and we encourage Church members not to blame parents in this circumstance. Single but not alone: Sister Kristen Oaks opens up about the highs and lows of being single in the Church Sister Kristen M. Oaks, wife of President Dallin H. Oaks of the First Presidency, married him when she was 53 years old and he was a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. See Also Peace Posted by 2 years ago. To learn more or opt-out, read our Cookie Policy. Courtney didn’t ask for the circumstances into which she was born in this life, any more than somebody with same-gender attraction did. Photo from Wikimedia Commons. Norm Bangerter to the Utah Arts Council, serving an eight-year term and including one year as vice chairman. The linked site has its own terms of use, privacy policies, and security practices that differ from those on our website. We feel for someone that has that anguish. ELDER WICKMAN: Let me just add to that, if I may. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: You’re saying the Church doesn’t necessarily have a position on ‘nurture or nature’. They were married June 24, 1952, in the Salt Lake Temple and have six children: Sharmon O. Personal Life. Those who are vigorously advocating for something called same-gender marriage have essentially put that potato on the fork. They followed the example of Brigham Young, who expressed his profound negative feelings when he first had this principle revealed to him. If a young man says, “Look, I really want these feelings to go away… I would do anything for these feelings to go away,” is it legitimate to look at clinical therapy of some sort that would address those issues? Those are scientific questions — whether nature or nurture — those are things the Church doesn’t have a position on. All Rights Reserved. Every teaching position, every missionary position can be held by single people. Dallin Harris Oaks (born August 12, 1932) is an American attorney, jurist, author, professor, public speaker, and religious leader. What would you say to them? I think the answer is that we do not legalize behavior for those reasons unless they are very persuasive reasons brought forward to make a change in the current situation. (He may be a professional thief or he may be selling a service that is illegal, or whatever it may be.) Yet the question is asked and the matter is put forward as if those who believe in marriage between a man and a woman have the burden of proving that it should not be extended to some other set of conditions. Russell Marion Nelson Sr. (born September 9, 1924) is an American religious leader and former surgeon who is the 17th and current president of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS Church). Until quite recently, in a limited number of countries, there has been no such thing as a marriage between persons of the same gender. Either there is marriage as it is now defined and as defined by the Lord, or there is what could thus be described as genderless marriage. My son has now stopped coming to church altogether. Case studies I believe have shown that in some cases there has been progress made in helping someone to change that orientation; in other cases not. Now he tells me he’s planning on going to Canada where same-gender marriage is allowed. In May of 1984, he was called as an apostle in the Quorum of the Twelve (“Dallin H. Oaks” ; “Elder Dallin H. Oaks”). We certainly discourage people getting involved with any group or organization that foster living a homosexual lifestyle. I had a B average when I met June; after we married, I had an A average. ELDER WICKMAN: We live in a society which is so saturated with sexuality that it perhaps is more troublesome now, because of that fact, for a person to look beyond their gender orientation to other aspects of who they are. Latter-day Saints are entitled to believe whatever they like. What bearing does this have on eternal life? His father died of tuberculosis when he was only eight years old, and three years later he began working to help his mother. President Dallin H. Oaks, first counselor in the First Presidency and president of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, has served as a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints since May 1984. In 2020 our prophet, President Russell M. Nelson , has encouraged us to # HearHim —to seek the Lord’s guidance and direction for our individual lives. President Hinckley has said that if people are faithful, they can essentially go forward as anyone else in the Church and have full fellowship. Style Guide Note:When reporting about The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, please use the complete name of the Church in the first reference. As far as something less than that — as far as relationships that give to some pairs in our society some right but not all of those associated with marriage — as to that, as far as I know, the First Presidency hasn’t expressed itself. But it’s not limited to someone who has same-gender attraction. What is the Church’s teaching about that? It’s important to keep in mind the difference between Jesus’ love and His definition of doctrine, and the definition of doctrine that has come from apostles and prophets of the Lord Jesus Christ, both anciently and in modern times. For more information on the use of the name of the Church, go to our online. Ultimately that’s where the battle is going to be decided. Temptation is not unique. Personal life. Sexual relations are proper only between husband and wife, appropriately expressed within the bonds of marriage. We’re talking about a common condition of mortality. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: There are those who would say that that might have applied better in the 1950s or earlier than in the 21st century. But nonetheless, if you see mortality as now, it’s only during this season. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: Elder Wickman, when you referred earlier to missionary service, you held that out as a possibility for someone who felt same-gender attraction but didn’t act on it. I can imagine that in most circumstances the parents would say, ‘Please don’t do that. If they do not act upon these inclinations, then they can go forward as do all other members of the Church.”. We provide the link to this third party's website solely as a convenience to you. He said, “We love them (referring to people who have same-sex attractions) as sons and daughters of God. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: If you had to describe this enormously complex question in a couple of basic principles, what would that be? If we cater to the feelings, they increase the power of the temptation. ELDER OAKS: God loves all of His children. ELDER WICKMAN: One of the great sophistries of our age, I think, is that merely because one has an inclination to do something, that therefore acting in accordance with that inclination is inevitable. It’s the one institution that is ceremoniously performed by priesthood authority in the temple [and] transcends this world. He has provided a plan for His children to enjoy the choicest blessings that He has to offer in eternity. Then in 1963, he served as the second counselor in the presidency of the Chicago Illinois South Stake. Scroll below and check more details information about Current Net worth as well as Monthly/Year Salary, Expense, Income Reports! 26.6k Likes, 218 Comments - Dallin H. Oaks (@dallinhoaks) on Instagram: “In 2020 our prophet, President Russell M. Nelson, has encouraged us to #HearHim—to seek the Lord’s…” PUBLIC AFFAIRS: Would you extend the same argument against same-gender marriage to civil unions or some kind of benefits short of marriage? In this life, such things as service in the Church, including missionary service, all of this is available to anyone who is true to covenants and commandments. ELDER OAKS: That argument impresses me as something akin to the fact that if we agree that the patient is sick and getting sicker, we should therefore approve a coup de grace. The Oaks family lived for a year in the Washington, D.C., area, where Elder Oaks began his law career as a clerk to then-Chief Justice Earl Warren of the U.S. Supreme Court. ELDER WICKMAN: Let me say again what I said a moment ago. ELDER OAKS: I think it is an accurate statement to say that some people consider feelings of same-gender attraction to be the defining fact of their existence. ‘I might be the only Republican at this place’: Why Garth Brooks is performing at Joe Biden’s inauguration. ELDER WICKMAN: We’re not trying to regulate people, but this notion that ‘what happens in your house doesn’t affect what happens in my house’ on the subject of the institution of marriage may be the ultimate sophistry of those advocating same-gender marriage. Marriage is defined by the Lord Himself. What should be the proper response of a Latter-day Saint parent in that situation? This is not a situation where the Church has elected to take the matter into the legal arena or into the political arena. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: So you are saying that homosexual feelings are controllable? By referring or linking you to this website, we do not endorse or guarantee this content, products, or services offered. Even the Savior was tempted. It will cloud your perceptions of what is important in life. Hence there can be no coexistence of two marriages. He was born on August 12, 1932 (87 years old) in Provo, Utah. ELDER WICKMAN: Whether it is nature or nurture really begs the important question, and a preoccupation with nature or nurture can, it seems to me, lead someone astray from the principles that Elder Oaks has been describing here. But beyond that, it is comparing apples and oranges to refer to the love that the Savior expressed for all mankind, for every person, for every man and woman and child, with the doctrine related to marriage. They’re great people. The following interview was conducted in 2006 with Elder Dallin H. Oaks, a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of the Church, and Elder Lance B. Wickman, a member of the Seventy. You will always be my son, and I’ll always be there to help you. Those are opportunities that really help us to come within the ambit of the Savior’s Atonement. At such point as you now, as an institution, begin to recognize a legally-sanctioned relationship, a committed relationship between two people of the same gender, you have now redefined the institution to being one of genderless marriage. Our teachings, even as expressed most recently in a very complete doctrinal sense in the Family Proclamation by living apostles and prophets, is that children deserve to be reared in a home with a father and a mother. So there are lots of kinds of anguish people can have, even associated with just this matter of marriage. These leaders qualify for the vaccine in Utah because they are over the age of 70. All that said… there may be on occasion some specific rights that we would be concerned about being granted to those in a same-gender relationship. ELDER OAKS: There is another point to add here, and this comes from a recent statement of the First Presidency, which is a wonderful description of our attitude in this matter: “We of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints reach out with understanding and respect for individuals who are attracted to those of the same gender. When that duty was lifted, they were directed to conform to the law of the land, which forbade polygamy and which had been held constitutional. The good news for somebody who is struggling with same-gender attraction is this: 1) It is that ‘I’m not stuck with it forever.’ It’s just now. Considering what they say they have, why do they want to add to it the legal status of marriage that has been honored and experienced for thousands of years? What is it that is desired by those who advocate same-gender marriage? To suggest that in the face of these millennia of history and the revelations of God and the whole human pattern they have the right to redefine the whole institution for everyone is presumptuous in the extreme and terribly wrong-headed. Is it sometimes easier to ‘close the window’ on an issue than deal with it? When that claim is made, the burden of proving that this step will not undo the wisdom and stability of millennia of experience lies on those who would make the change. Any other sexual conduct, including fornication, adultery, and homosexual and lesbian behavior is sinful. We should remember that none of us is perfect and none of us has children whose behavior is entirely in accord with exactly what we would have them do in all circumstances. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: At what point does showing that love cross the line into inadvertently endorsing behavior? That is in the Constitution. Dallin H. Oaks, first counselor in the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, delivered this devotional address on October 27, 2020. Dallin H Oaks. President Hinckley, faced with the fact that apparently some had believed it to be a remedy, and perhaps that some Church leaders had even counseled marriage as the remedy for these feelings, made this statement: “Marriage should not be viewed as a therapeutic step to solve problems such as homosexual inclinations or practices.” To me that means that we are not going to stand still to put at risk daughters of God who would enter into such marriages under false pretenses or under a cloud unknown to them. The more a person can look beyond gender orientation, the happier and more fulfilling life is likely to be. PUBLIC AFFAIRS: The emphasis that has been placed in this conversation on traditional marriage between a man and a woman has been consistent throughout. The other is to teach principles for individuals to make individual choices. 25, 2018. Such an amendment would be a very important expression of public policy, which would feed into or should feed into the decisions of judges across the length and breadth of the land. The aversive therapies that have been used in connection with same-sex attraction have contained some serious abuses that have been recognized over time within the professions. One hardly can get past the first page of Genesis without seeing that very clearly. What would you say to those people who declare: “I know gay people who are in long-term committed relationships. ELDER OAKS: I see irony in that if one views it without the belief that we affirm in divine revelation. If marriage is evolving, ought we to resist those kind of social changes? Download a photo or video by clicking or tapping on it. This is more than a social issue — ultimately it may be a test of our most basic religious freedoms to teach what we know our Father in Heaven wants us to teach. President Hinckley said that marriage is not a therapeutic step to solve problems. She’ll be 27 next week. Homosexual behavior is and will always remain before the Lord an abominable sin. Dallin H. Oaks estimated Net Worth, Biography, Age, Height, Dating, Relationship Records, Salary, Income, Cars, Lifestyles & many more details have been updated below. He’s adamant about it. The ultimate defining fact for all of us is that we are children of Heavenly Parents, born on this earth for a purpose, and born with a divine destiny. I think when any one of us begins to think that way, it might be well to look beyond ourselves. How would you address someone who said to you, ‘I understand it’s the same standard, but aren’t we asking a little more of someone who has same-gender attraction?’ Obviously there are heterosexual people who won’t get married, but would you accept that they at least have hope that ‘tomorrow I could meet the person of my dreams.’ There’s always the hope that that could happen at any point in their life. The fact of the matter is that the best way to assure that a definition of marriage as it now stands continues is to put it into the foundational legal document of the United States. ELDER WICKMAN: For one thing, those who assert that need to read their Bible more carefully. First of all, do you think it’s a fair assessment that some people have that feeling? In addition, if people want to legalize a particular relationship, we need to be careful if that kind of relationship has been disapproved for millennia. Scripture, ancient and modern, could not be clearer on the definition that the Lord and His agents have given to marriage down through the dispensations. Don’t expect to be a lengthy house guest. The First Presidency hasn’t expressed itself concerning any specific right. When Nelson organized his First Presidency, Anderson says, the average age was 87.8 — with first counselor Dallin H. Oaks at 85 and Henry B. Eyring … I hope the Lord will be merciful to parents whose love for their children has caused them to get into such traps. You’ve described a particular kind of challenge that is very vexing. You’re embarking on a course of action that will weaken you in your ability to repent. He is American by natinoanliy. That is the Plan of Salvation for His children, and it is our duty to proclaim that plan, to teach its truth, and to praise God for the mission of His Son Jesus Christ. In the late 1940s, young Oaks and several friends from Brigham Young High School in Provo staged an Al Capone caper as a teen-age prank. With all, it needs to be done in the spirit of love and welcoming that, as Elder Oaks mentioned, ‘You’re always my son.’ There’s an old maxim which is really true for every parent and that is, ‘You haven’t failed until you quit trying.’ I think that means both in terms of taking appropriate opportunities to teach one’s children the right way, but at all times making sure they know that over all things you’ll love them. There is nothing in that proposed amendment that requires a criminal prosecution or that directs the attorneys general to go out and round people up, but it declares a principle and it also creates a defensive barrier against those who would alter that traditional definition of marriage. President Dallin H. Oaks, first counselor in the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, gets a COVID vaccination Jan. 19, 2021. ELDER OAKS: That’s where our doctrine comes into play. Admittedly, for each one of us, it’s hard to look beyond the ‘now’ sometimes.

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